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How to Maintain Friendships in Adulthood

Many people have those friends from college, high school, or even elementary school who are still our closest confidants. But what if you don't? What if you want to cultivate new friendships in your life beyond the people you've known since childhood?

In this blog, we'll talk about some ways to maintain your relationships with friends as an adult and keep them strong as time goes on. You can use these tips on any friendship, whether it's been a long time since you saw each other or not!

You must have the desire to be a good friend.

You must have the desire to be a good friend.

If you don’t genuinely want to be friends with someone, then it’s not worth it. You may think that being nice and friendly will help you make friends, but at the end of the day if you don't like them or even care about them then your "friendship" is not going to last very long. The most important thing is that both people want to be friends with each other. If one person doesn't feel strongly about this new relationship anymore then there really isn't any point in continuing it because soon enough they will stop returning calls or responding back when invited out for coffee again because they simply won't care anymore than anyone else would after months of neglecting social connections with these same people over time (or maybe just weeks).

Don't get too hung up on small issues.

One of the biggest challenges with maintaining friendships in adulthood is that you will inevitably find yourself disagreeing with friends. It's not always easy to remember that there are two sides to every story and that it's possible for both parties to be right or wrong.

But what if your friend is trying to undermine your authority at work? Or they keep showing up late for plans, even though they know this makes you feel disrespected and annoyed? In these situations, it can be tempting to make a big deal out of small problems—which only leads to bigger ones down the line. But if we're honest with ourselves, it feels good when someone takes our side in a fight we're having with someone else—even if they have no idea what's going on between us and said person (or even if they do). That's because humans are social beings who thrive on being appreciated by others; when this happens regularly enough within our close circle of friends (or even just one person), it helps us feel like we belong somewhere meaningful—whether in school or at home or at work.

Be open to new friendships.

Be open to new friendships. If you're in college, it's easy to meet people who are going through the same things as you. Once you graduate, however, your friends are much more spread out geographically and no longer have common classes or activities. You might not see them again until they move back home for a visit or run into each other at a restaurant where they happen to be eating dinner with their families on the same night as yours.

It's important that we find ways to stay connected even if our lives are far apart from each other. Don't let yourself isolate yourself from making new friends because of this distance!

Family life shouldn't prevent you from having friends outside of your immediate clan.

In adulthood, family life shouldn't prevent you from having friends outside of your immediate clan. You can have both—and if you find that you're struggling to keep up with the demands of family life, try to make more time for yourself and your friends.

If you're constantly busy with work and family responsibilities, it might seem like there's no room in your schedule for a social life. But if this is how you feel, remind yourself that being a parent or partner doesn't mean putting other relationships on hold. Family should be the most important thing in your life (and it certainly should be), but it doesn't mean all other relationships must suffer as a result. Try to carve out some time every day or week so that you can spend quality time with friends outside of your family circle—at least an hour each week would do nicely!

Understand that not all friendships last forever, and that's OK.

One of the most important things to remember is that not all friendships last forever. It's OK to lose friends, and it's a natural part of life. You can't force a friendship to last forever, but it will be easier if you're prepared for it in advance. One way to prepare is by joining clubs or going to events where other people are likely to be friends with each other too.

If there's something specific that made your friendship stronger in the past (like shared interests or proximity), try bringing those things back into your relationship if possible. There are lots of ways that relationships change over time—and some people might not be able to handle those changes without feeling uncomfortable or threatened themselves!

These tips will help you find and maintain friendships throughout your life.

There’s no denying that friendships are important. In fact, research shows that people with close friends live longer and are happier than those without. But how do you make friends? And what do you do if your friendship goes sour?

  • You can't force a friendship to last forever: While it may seem like some friendships just naturally work out, most of them require effort from both parties in order to keep going over the long haul. You’ll have to put in some time and effort into maintaining your relationship if you want it to last—and even then, there will be times when things get rocky between you and your friend.

  • Be willing to forgive: Everyone makes mistakes sometimes (and yes, even your best friends will screw up at some point). If they apologize sincerely and try their best not to repeat their mistake ever again (or at least until they've learned from the experience), then it's important for them as well as yourself that you accept their apology gracefully instead of holding onto resentment or anger toward them over something small like forgetting about plans once or twice because life got busy again after being on top of things for awhile..

Don’t expect perfection from your friends: If you can’t get past the fact that your best friend isn't perfect and there will be times when they disappoint you, then it might not be worth keeping them in your life.

Don’t be afraid to let go: If they keep making mistakes over and over again or if they don't have time for you anymore, then it may be time to grieve that friendship. You can reflect on what you learned about yourself through that friendship, the support the friend provided you at the time, and what you learned about yourself through that friendship. Friendships don't have to last forever to be deeply meaningful, and a friendship that doesn't last forever does not have to mean that anyone failed or did something wrong.

Now that you’re a grown-up, your friendships will evolve in different ways. Some of your friends might start to drift away as they get busy with their own adulting lives while others may become more important than ever before. It is important to keep an open mind and remain flexible as your friendships change over time, so you don’t miss out on any good opportunities for friendship or end up feeling isolated because of past experiences.

There are many challenges associated with maintaining friendships as adults, but it is possible!